Marriage Story Explained: Themes, Meaning and True Story

Get a full month of MUBI FOR FREE: (With the support of Creative Europe - MEDIA Programme of the European Union) | Noah Baumbach's Marriage Story is not a "divorce story." It's a story of a marriage as a whole, told from from the vantage point of its final days and honors all the good things that still remain between Adam Driver’s Charlie and Scarlett Johannsen’s Nicole. It's ultimately an affirmation of love in all its messiness, complexity, and impermanence. If you like this video, subscribe to our channel or support us on Patreon:
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    The TakeThe TakeVor Monat
    • 4:08 impossible. 26 of the last 27 mass shooters were all raised by single moms.

      jayjayVor Monat
    • Growing up in a broken home is the absolute worst thing you can do to a child. How many women do you have on staff that all your videos try to put chirpy spins on stuff like this?

      jayjayVor Monat
  • They should of figured that they don’t belong together before they had kids.

    Alexis Co.Alexis Co.Vor 3 Tage
  • Laura Dern looked so goddamn hot

    s 9s 9Vor 3 Tage
  • It's a man's story. Told so amazingly that you think there is fairness and equality and so much more that has never been talked about. But it's the same story. It's a man's story.

    Shrutika SrivastavaShrutika SrivastavaVor 4 Tage
  • So everyone feels sorry for Charlie, but at the same time, nobody wants to acknowledge how Nicole was bullshitting. I wanna divorce all of you

    Macabre EnterpriseMacabre EnterpriseVor 4 Tage
  • Kramer vs Kramer 40 years later? C'mon. They even cast non pretty boys actors.

    Ana Irene MartinezAna Irene MartinezVor 4 Tage
  • get rid of the ads - thumbs down for ads

    Dianne HunterDianne HunterVor 5 Tage
  • I love the Take, and love this movie. I only wish my parents were able to watch this when I was younger... thank you for your content.

    AtlasoftheMoonAtlasoftheMoonVor 6 Tage
  • I made the mistake of watching two divorce movies back to back, this movie and "A Separation," which won the Best Foreign Picture Oscar in 2012. I watched "Marriage Story" first and was left feeling weird. I knew it was a good movie. But there was just something off about it--like these were not normal people going through a gut-wrenching emotional trauma. There was too much grandstanding and pontificating coming from both the husband and wife, that epic fight scene felt forced, even contrived, and the ludicrous bubble of privilege these people lived in was just too unrealistic, at least for me. Then I watched "A Separation," and that movie blew me away. I was awestruck at how marvelous and realistic the acting was--everyone in that movie was pitch-perfect in their acting, even a little kid (which is incredibly hard to pull off, realistic acting by a little kid). This was a true slice of life, true human beings going through a terrible, awful process. The best acting I have ever seen, and from Iran and in Persian with subtitles, of all things. "Marriage Story" just paled in comparison, and now I consider it an OK movie. To see a true masterpiece about a family falling apart, you must see "A Separation."

    Luboman411Luboman411Vor 6 Tage
  • actual marriage so incredibly difficult and complex that the telling of such a story that feels authentic and not an effort to falsify what marriage is make their marriage even realer then it had been when they had been married.

    laShanta CurrylaShanta CurryVor 7 Tage
  • They were each right in many aspects and wrong in others. That's marriage. The look Nicole gave to Charlie in the end felt like she still loved him. And the way Charlie reacted to her letter hit me harder than expected. Great movie 👍🏼

    Mia MoriMia MoriVor 8 Tage
  • Whatever ambiguity I felt about the couple vanished when the wife moved to L.A. and took the boy with her. She was inappropriate. In real life, I doubt she'd get away with disrupting the child's welfare on a speculative pilot TV show -- to say nothing about denying his father custody with a cross-country move. But then, the action happened so quickly that audiences might miss this salient feature in the plot. On a deeper level, however, what seemed to trigger the dissolvement of this marriage was his unwillingness to assist his wife become self-actualized -- after she assisted his accomplishments. In that, the story reminded me of "War of the Roses."

    Carlos RobinsCarlos RobinsVor 8 Tage
  • Yet again, a review that thinks this movie was a balanced view of two people both responsible for this marriage breaking down. It is not. The line of the story is, "you wanted this life until you didn't". That is why they are divorcing. She just aint feeling it anymore. So on a whim, she destroys their family. This is not an even handed story.

    weldsjweldsjVor 10 Tage
  • When he said he didn't even want to get married. Huuuuu. I had to pause this movie several times to process! Haha

    ClaireClaireVor 11 Tage
  • I got a worse story

    Ever AfterEver AfterVor 13 Tage
  • i felt bad for charlie from start to finish during this movie, but i think people whose parents HAVENT been divorced will have different opinions i felt bad for charlie because my parents have been split up since i was 7. and my mom bullies my dad and puts him down completely at every turn and i saw the possibility of that in nicole and just reminded me of my mom and ugh

    Vi RVi RVor 14 Tage
  • An actual explanation of the themes rather than a summary of the plot? Fkn power move.

    AiwekànoAiwekànoVor 16 Tage
  • 2 selfish people get married.... that's it. Not much to it.... a divorce in the making. While well acted, I don't see why anyone would enjoy watching someone elses... There's a reason there is pre-marital counseling, to bring up tough questions BEFORE you get married... For a great film experience go watch Parasite, where everyone is guilty on some level, but it's entertaining and masterfully filmed, designed and acted.And yet about a much bigger social problem.

  • I feel like this movie vilifies Jay but treated Nora differently even though they were both essentially doing the same thing for their perspective clients.

    plutoburnplutoburnVor 17 Tage
  • Movie definitely sided with Charlie

    Kellr0ckKellr0ckVor 17 Tage
  • My god I hated Laura Dern’s character so much. I’m glad she won the Oscar though. Great movie.

    Jonathan AiselJonathan AiselVor 18 Tage
  • Is it fair to call this the Anti-Midsommar, or are they too different to compare that way?

    Edward ThomsonEdward ThomsonVor 18 Tage
  • As a child from divorce it’s always important to try and remember what kindled your marriage and carry that when you’re going through court. My parents went in mutual and on good terms but came out hating each other. It’s amazing how he directed and shot this to make parents both seem victims of Love and the divorce system. Its crazy.

    _Azile__Azile_Vor 19 Tage
  • Dam I can't believe you guys got all of this out of the movie I just thought it was boring lol

    Emaan wEmaan wVor 19 Tage
  • lol literally she forced their family to move across the country and he spent a ridiculous amount of money to try and keep seeing his son. lol when you go and see eleven other divorce lawyers to get conflicts.... girl that’s a vicious move

    brodameronsbrodameronsVor 19 Tage
  • lmfao except scarlett johansson is exhausting as an actress

    brodameronsbrodameronsVor 19 Tage
  • Ultimately any choice they made through the years could have led them to the same ending. If he compromised and moved to L.A. for her his buiness would suffer which will lead to resentment and conflict. even if he is content with the move and she succeed, her schedule and travels along with the fame and money will creat the same problem. That's life and it is what it is.

    Mehari AchameyelehMehari AchameyelehVor 20 Tage
  • Ironically she made lost in translation

    Ricardo MurilloRicardo MurilloVor 20 Tage
  • I could see a bit of Stanley Donen's Two for the Road DNA in how this portrays marriage: all the good and bad happening all at once.

    John MendenhallJohn MendenhallVor 21 Tag
  • Personal stories about divorce that toxic, but they are good parents which is a good thing, the guy will never learned next wife same pattern making her another victim. Many man or woman don't care for kids unless is to use them as weapon to hurt the ex in every level possible even if means to traumatized them.

    Victoria Palferez-SiriVictoria Palferez-SiriVor 21 Tag
  • The husband makes himself a victim and then uses his victimhood to destroy the relationship. The fight scene is emotional abuse and its not normal. Its just her defending herself the whole time while he tears her down and tells her he hates her? Yeah... not normal

    Cheyenne BrownCheyenne BrownVor 22 Tage
  • My God, the character of Nancy Cats was so irritating and dead. I kept wishing she would just leave. No offence.

    MimMMimMVor 22 Tage
  • Gosh this movie is fucking amazing I for sure don't get the criticism that this movie is a remake of Kramer vs Kramer outside of a divorce being a part of the movie I see hardly any other similarities so glad I watched this movie it was incredible!!!

    Captain JakemericaCaptain JakemericaVor 23 Tage
  • Great review! Thank you

    Dror PeretzDror PeretzVor 23 Tage
  • Driver's charachter committed adultery. Not a "grey area"!

    Joyless JJoyless JVor 23 Tage
  • I loved this movie. I literally cried at the part where she chooses his food from the menu. I knew there could be no other end to the movie but this part gutted me. Loved the movie.

    Mildred AlayonMildred AlayonVor 24 Tage
  • This movie deserves an Oscar. Period.

    Jodi LamJodi LamVor 24 Tage
  • And once again you gotta throw in the feminism angle for no reason

    natezepunk 85natezepunk 85Vor 26 Tage
  • The law in our country requires that you and your spouse are unable to communicate to even be considered. The parties can't just agree to disagree and be separated, they have to be 'unable' to be together. So one of the spouse should take the fall, and be the bad guy/girl for the separation to be approved by law. It's insane.

    GnaReffotsirkGnaReffotsirkVor 26 Tage
  • I was expecting it to be the last 5 years and it was and I love it. Both stories show a chillingly real story of a marriage that ends. The guy is a creator of art becoming successful. The girl is an actress that feels like she's become an accessory to a hot shot instead of her own person. She moves to pursue her acting dreams. He eventually cheats on her. A key difference is that the last 5 years is much less equal. People side against Cathy in the last 5 years easily and I think it's because the play was much more shamelessly autobiographical. Of course the guy paints Cathy as paranoid when she's literally a mean view of his ex wife. The fact that she comes off as crazy when she's correct about him cheating on her shows how unfairly she's portrayed. Marriage story takes great pains to show both character in humans who both love their child and each other. They just want different things and lost the ability to connect. She drinks and he cheats are basic stereotypical failings of a marriage but Charlie and Nicole are so much more then that.

    Aryssa MansfieldAryssa MansfieldVor 27 Tage
  • It IS a r_a_r_e divorce narrative. Which is why I didn't like it. Sorry Charlie.

    Karen M.Karen M.Vor 27 Tage
  • 2 kind of selfish rich and successful artists don't like each other so they get a divorce none of us could ever afford. They are emotional but ultimately unrelateable do to their experience and economic status. The end.

    The Geeky AmreekiThe Geeky AmreekiVor 27 Tage
  • 2/5/2020 (Follow Up) HA!! ... I TOLD YOU!! ... Here's a verbatim quote from an anonymous (Official/Credentialed) Oscar voter in the Hollywood Reporter: "Marriage Story was FAKE, which is too bad because there probably is a story there- but it just ---> doesn't ring true." See my "PS - PS" at the very bottom. 1/31/2020 (Original Comments) Here's MY original critique from only watching the first 15 minutes of the movie: The first ten minutes of this movie was TERRIBLE... I literally STOPPED watching... a total bore-fest of (in my opinion) TOO MUCH front-loaded (often exaggerated - melodramatic) CHARACTERIZATION that went on waayyyyyyy too long. Maybe I’ll go back and watch the rest another time, but I’m in no hurry - that’s for damn sure. (More below) PS - Not for nothing, but whose great (meaning stupid) Idea was it to PURPOSELY make Scarlett Johansson so unattractive/tomboy-ish? (if you get my drift.) I believe they did this because the core audience of this type of movie is women, and they didn’t want to intimidate them with having the female lead be another “perfect” looking “movie star” so they decided to have her look as plain and unremarkable as possible. I think they could have achieved this by just toning-down her beauty, without destroying it beyond recognition. My two cents. PS-PS - the number one rule in making a movie is have the audience temporarily suspend reality and believe (FEEL) that the characters on screen are REAL. Neither main character in this movie seemed “real” to me ... they both came across as “actors” (who OVERACTED) playing real people... but did it badly.

    Hidden AmericaHidden AmericaVor 28 Tage
  • This movie is stupid and normal everyday people can't really relate to it because these characters have no real life problems. They have zero financial issues. Are they one pay check away from living on the streets? No! What kind of difficult life do they have when they're living in Manhattan in a nice apartment or her mom living in a mansion in L.A. Who lives like that? No one but the upper 1% Normal everyday people stay in unhappy marriages because they're placed in a desperation situation financially which is so much more worse. And dangerous. They can't leave. Where are those stories??? Why doesn't Hollywood tell stories about modern day desperation? Which is purposely created by the politicians who help the banks that fund these movies. BINGO!!!!!!

    Insane OneInsane OneVor 28 Tage
  • They get divorced EXPLAINED

    DackRamboDackRamboVor 29 Tage
  • Movie definitely convinced me to never get married or have kids, Jesus, doesn't seem worth the hassle.

    Peter EPeter EVor 29 Tage
  • The lawyer's monologue about the 'unfair' expectations of mothers is so short-sighted and biased against men. She says the idea of a "good father" was only invented in recent times, but this is a false claim insofar as it measures the pressures of fatherhood according to the same sets of standards currently used to determine the pressures of motherhood , namely, day-to-day child-rearing. However, if she was to remove her one-dimensional feminist glasses to take a closer look at this picture, she'd realise that the standards for what qualifies as "good parenting" actually differs between the genders, and thus, between the models of 'motherhood' and 'fatherhood' that she's conflating here to make her claim. For example, whilst traditional models of fatherhood may not have prioritised the hands-on/nurturing aspects of child-rearing in the same way motherhood did, they were however expected to conduct a different type of child-rearing in the form of financial support/care, which was- and still is- a parental responsibility exclusive to fatherhood... both in the historical context (when men were the primary bread-winners), as well as in contemporary societies of today, where fathers are typically no longer the only bread-winner in the family, but nevertheless remain the only ones who are financially responsible for them.

    PenelopePenelopeVor 29 Tage
    • dil oreo dil oreo woah, salty much! You’re conflating my position here to wanting to “find a man” 😂 I already have a man lol. As for you though.. you sound like someone whose “tough guy” persona is a mere foil for their low IQ and even lower self-esteem. What a riveting life you must lead... incapable of civil, intellectual dialogue whilst living in a world that you’ve resigned is just “not that deep”. I’ll take my world over your boring and one-dimensional one, thanks!

      PenelopePenelopeVor 21 Tag
    • @Penelope nah you definitely sound like one of those desperate pick me women pandering to men lmao. Its not that deep calm down

      dil oreodil oreoVor 26 Tage
    • Ms. R Maga? What does maga have to do with this. I am in no way affiliated with Maga; heck, I’m not even american. And where did you spot hypocrisy in my comment? My opinion is not informed by MAGA, rather, its based on an unbiased view of history, and particularly, the complex history of gender relations. I take both men and women’s struggles into account, rather than just the women’s.. which is what we’re often taught in schools.

      PenelopePenelopeVor 29 Tage
    • Lol... Relax. She had a point so do you. You remove your hypocritical WASPs-y (MAGA) lens.

      Ms. RMs. RVor 29 Tage
  • Funny that scarlett's character was john lennon in the sgt pepper uniform, considering he got divorced a year later after that album was released

    mokrodog1234mokrodog1234Vor 29 Tage
    • Ok... Thank you for the info.

      Ms. RMs. RVor 29 Tage
  • Please make a video on film "Persona" (1966)!!!

    Коммуникативный МенеджментКоммуникативный МенеджментVor Monat
  • Let me guess its all the mans fault

    FeologildFeologildVor Monat
  • Cool story (but Johansson still didn't impress me. Maybe if she was a tree).

    Ms. RMs. RVor Monat
  • Jeez people have a lot of free time to sit and over analyse all sorts of things... Videogames, PC culture, movies, god, corruption...the world of full of itself...

    Varun KapurVarun KapurVor Monat
  • This movie was so well done. Makes me feel even more empathy for my father. Also, thanks for the “First Wive’s Club” references! God I love that movie!!

    Beatnik RNBeatnik RNVor Monat
  • Do a Harry Potter character review please☺️

    Katerina ChoutzioumiKaterina ChoutzioumiVor Monat
  • Whatever makes the director sleep at night. Being stuck with an ex because of children has to be the most life sucking joy outcome in someone’s life.

    Lily ShahLily ShahVor Monat
  • "finds love in a hopeless place".. ait I'm out

    OOOuiseOOOuiseVor Monat
  • This movie made me feel like I'll never want to marry and the best solution for me to have children is to make a co parenting/platonic parenting agreement with a woman.

    Beefy BeingsBeefy BeingsVor Monat
  • OK but that child services lady was definitely an alien.

    Kezia SwanepoelKezia SwanepoelVor Monat
    • @Camilo Carrillo It may also have been a bit of elite snobbery. Social Workers are among the most over worked underpaid people out there. As a result, you don't attract the brightest, most gifted people. He's a cutting edge artist. His life is in the hands of a woman that may have barely gotten through a community college. Unfair, judgemental, but likely has a lot of truth to it.

      weldsjweldsjVor 10 Tage
    • @Camilo Carrillo that's an amazing insight. I was trying to figure out why she was like that and that makes so much sense! Thank you.

      Kezia SwanepoelKezia SwanepoelVor 15 Tage
    • thats the motif imo, she represents the system and how they dont care about it at a human level.

      Camilo CarrilloCamilo CarrilloVor 15 Tage
    • truth. her voice creeps me out.

      Linh VoLinh VoVor 18 Tage
  • The little boy got on my nerves. Waaayyy too much back talk for someone who could barely read.

    Kerra JohnsonKerra JohnsonVor Monat
  • ESFJ wife and ESTJ Husband. I feel it was written by and for this audience.

    Bory ManBory ManVor Monat
  • 👏👏👏👏

    Risitas' CositasRisitas' CositasVor Monat
  • SPOILERS: Idk why you’re watching this if you haven’t seen this movie tho The scene where Charlie cuts his arm by accident and then just plays it off to the examiner while he’s literally bleeding out was the most intense shit ever for me as a viewer. I really thought he was going to just to die there on the floor.

    Jaylan ThompsonJaylan ThompsonVor Monat
  • I felt bad for Charlie throughout the whole movie, nicole did so much harm in the background.

    Hen Hen 601Hen Hen 601Vor Monat
  • 3:05. I felt that

    little flooflittle floofVor Monat
  • Hello, can you do a video about The Great Gatsby?

    Fatima MojicaFatima MojicaVor Monat
  • I feel like it's sad because they could have just read the letters and avoided all that horrible shit they went through Which was probably the obvious point of the film.

    Lindsey BailesLindsey BailesVor Monat
    • I definitely think it would have helped in terms of the viciousness, but I think because of Charlie's selfishness and Nicole's inability to identify and express her desires at that point I feel like the decisions being made between the two of them would have mirrored their dynamic and resulted in the results going way more in his direction, especially in terms of the location Henry is raised in. So it wouldn't really avoid a lot of the things that she was struggling with, just him.

      Anna ParsonsAnna ParsonsVor 23 Tage
  • I found myself shouting at the screen in the courthouse scene. I hated the lawyers, profiting from this process

    Rhys LloydRhys LloydVor Monat
  • I liked this story for its raw genuine observation but I hated it too bc these two had problems that they could've worked through at many points with a lot of good counseling & willingness to work hard but they didn't choose that. love is a choice and takes work.

    Eli MayEli MayVor Monat
  • This is what happens when an assassin spy marries a dark side user.

    Adolfo PenaAdolfo PenaVor Monat
  • There are two kind of people that have seen Marriage Story: those that felt they were getting a divorce and those who felt their parents were getting divorced. Legit, there's no in between.

    Pan de MelocotónPan de MelocotónVor Monat
Marriage Story Explained: Themes, Meaning and True Story